Isn't it sad how many marriages end up broken? Minor misunderstandings turn into catalysts for divorce, which shouldn't be the case in the first place. As much as possible, married couples should try to salvage the marriage. Otherwise, the vows solemnized during the wedding would be rendered pointless.
Instead of wallowing on the idea that you're no longer "happy" with the marriage or your spouse, why not do something to turn it around? Leaving seems like a moot point especially if you consider the years and feelings you've invested in the marriage. Moreover, if there are kids involved, it's more difficult to end the marriage just so.
Once you start noticing some changes with your spouse or the marriage itself, take heed. Rather than deny the looming problem, face it head on by talking to your spouse about it. The desire to fix the marriage should be stronger than that of divorcing, and you and your spouse need to be on the same page. What are some signs that there might be something wrong with your marriage, and how should you address those signs? Read on to find out how:
Fewer sack sessions.
Sex is an integral part of any marriage because it's supposed to be the physical manifestation of love. Infrequent sex between you and your partner may not be indicative of a huge problem, but just the same, you'd do well to address it right away. Ask your spouse why you both have seem to put your intimacy on hold. Suggest ways to spice up your sex life, even if it means you'll try new couples’ sex toys.
It seems like a desperate move, but if you want to save the marriage, you would definitely consider using sexual toys for men and women if that means putting the spark back into your marriage. Using these toys can help you find what you seem to have lost as far as your sex life goes. Who knows, it might be the best way to bring the romance back into your marriage.
Communication barrier grows.
They say communication is the lifeblood of any relationship, more so marriage. Married couples shouldn't be afraid to talk about anything. There shouldn't be any secrets, and each one shouldn't hold back from expressing what he or she thinks or feels. There's no reason for either one to keep to himself. There are so many things to talk about, even mundane stuff. It should be stressed here how important it is to keep the line of communication open all the time. More importantly, communication should be two-way. One can't keep on talking while the other shuts up or shuts down. If one is talking, the other one needs to listen, and vice versa.
No more quality time.
Right after your wedding, you probably were inseparable, doing most stuff together. As years passed, you find yourself spending less and less time with your significant other; thus, when you finally spend time together, it's as if you're with a different person. Don't let that happen. Even if you're both busy with work, set aside time for the both of you to do stuff together. Run together every morning or afternoon. Cook together. Shop together. Don't let anything put a wedge between you.
Reach out to each other if you want to save the marriage. Communication is key if you want a remarkable coupled relationship with your spouse.